A stressed life event happens to all of us. When things happen, there are two common reactions of humans.
1) to react (aka, go out, enter control mode, punch a hole, escape, cry, call your therapist etc).
2) to internalize (ie losing confidence, why I am not sexy and make remarks that feel myself as a loser)
Are any of these well-known?
Well, first, if you happen to you, you are not alone. However, some questions to consider are:
Do you feel authority?
How does this affect your relationship?
How does this affect other areas of your life?
Come closer. Listen to whisper something of life saver in your ear:
You are not the truth of your situation.
If you say, you are playing the victim card. Also, victim cards are not powerful, free, and fun for those you or your life listening to your entire story over and over again. The first thing I tell you about this is because your life loves you so much and is afraid of being honest with you.
In the event of a crisis, you can fully control how you respond and how to internalize the event. You can change the situation and give power, you can have freedom around the problem, so it will not affect other areas of your life.
You do not define who you are. After something happened, you talked about it (that is, I can not do this, & # 39; this means x & # 39;).
Your story is negative, which makes you feel bad about yourself.
Despite the negative situation, you can still think positively. You can also prevent stressful living events from adversely affecting other areas of your life.
There are five tips on how to do this:
1. Please change your story. x (what happened) + y (your interpretation) = z (how to respond and internalize) An example is as follows. I lose my job. Your story may be something like the following. "I suck, I am not smart enough, obviously I do not want enough for business" It may be: "Wow, I did not expect it, but this company does not have me Missing.
2. Speak easily. Frequently, we are not responsible for what comes out of the mouth. Your story (important to refer to # 1) is that you usually want to say words to others and change the interpretation, but also want to think about ways to exchange events with others . Poor or powerful? Are you focusing on the entire map? Are you optimistic about Debbie Down? People respond accordingly and speak from a more positive mind framework to strengthen the power and freedom surrounding your situation.
3. Throw away the game of condemnation. Crisis & # 39; It does not give an excuse to let you afford. Crisis is not a reason you are tired, or feeling stressed. You are the reason. Please take charge of how you respond to the events of stressful life. If you are tired, take more sleep and eat better. If you are overwhelmed, absolutely control how your situation will affect you, such as taking a walk or practicing meditation.
Four. Management of side effects . Please make sure your problem does not affect other people in your life. In an undesirable situation, it does not allow you to be your spouse, flake friends, or checked out parent. You can tell what is going on, ask for space to deal with the problem and request support. However, I do not leave your loved ones in the dark, and I am confused by changes in behavior.
Five. Action: Impersonate. I do not think that the above four steps are easy. Sometimes it is sometimes necessary to empower emotions without any power. You may need to drag and drop. Do yourself go for love or join your family for movies, do romantic things. However, the study shows that your brain catches up with your action (Google only). If you act romantic and happy, you will start to feel that way. Imagine it? You do not have to wait It feels that way before acting accordingly (otherwise you may be waiting for a while).
By following these steps you can do great things in the face of the crisis. If you are responsible for your life, you gain more power and freedom. A promise of a girl scout.
* My therapist Disclaimer: If you feel that you are in danger of suffering yourself or other people, anxiety, depression, depression, severe attacks, do not rule your own feelings, approved psychotherapist . You do not have to struggle alone. There are many resources to help with these imbalances. *
